Love the child, dislike the behaviour 

We’ve all been there I’m sure, we’ve always had that one little poppet who just knows how to press those buttons. 

  
Even the best, most outstanding teachers amoungst us, will at some point had moments of self doubt! Fear not… Here are some great tips to help restore calm and order, and remove those barriers to poor behaviour. 

  
Always remember… There is usually a reason behind the poor behaviour. Our job is to unpick, and find solutions and strategies to help each child achieve their best. 

  

  • Every day is a fresh start- Always Meet and greet at the door – the best early intervention in behaviour management is at the door. Smile, show you care! 
  • Relationship build- this is the biggest tool in the tool box! We need to build trust, and mutual respect. Although at times it may be tough, you need to show you care, and that you are there. You could potentially be the only person this child can fully trust. You may be the only constant in this child’s life. 
  • Make sure you catch your little one doing the right thing – ensure you give the praise that this deserves- be careful not to use insincere praise, it’s sometimes easy to catch children doing the wrong thing so develop the ability to catch those more challenging pickles  doing the right thing is invaluable. 
  • Model good behaviour- use your school behaviour policy rigorously and ensure you follow through any sanctions. Be fair but firm- remembering all the time that it is the behaviour that you dislike and not the child
  • Ensure you inform parents of positive behaviour rather than just negative. You need to be transparent but ensure you have parents on side to work together. 
  • Find common ground, what do they love doing? Tap into this- if they love Lego (for example) use this as your carrot. Bring in lego comics from home “I saw this- and thought of you!” Show you really care about them and want them to achieve 
  • Talk- communication is so so important. Use comic strips to work out where the outcome could have been different. Encourage children to recognise how their behaviour affected the situation. If appropriate keep a Log of anti-incident, incident, post incident. Is there a pattern? 
  • Encourage children to reflect on their feelings as colours, use mirrors to look at themselves, show pictures of emotions to help them recognise how they are feeling.
  • Never alienate this child, create an ethos in your learning space where ALL children are valued- work together to help
  • Talk to other colleagues- a problem shared is a problem halved as they say. Be careful not to “give the dog a bad name” but download on critical friends who you respect  and value and ask for their help and support. 

  

Everyday is a new day- “A new beginning always allows us to wipe the slate clean” 

  

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Just a minute! 

For those of you that have read the “All about me page” you’ll know that my favourite saying is “Hang on a minute!” 

  
I say it all the time… 

I say it to my kids…

I say it to my hubby…

I say it to my colleagues… 

I’d be surprised if I didn’t say it in my sleep! 

I am making a new “Mid year resolution!” 

I’m going to say “I’ll give you a minute”

  
I’ll give you a minute of my time, instead of putting you off! I’m going to sit with my kidlets when they say “Can you play mine craft with me” 

“Can you come and play cricket?”

“Can you read me a story?” 

“Can we do some baking?” 

“Can we get the paints out?”

“Can we make something out of the recycling?” 

“Can we go to the skate ramps?”

Sometimes I’m busy doing “stuff” that could just wait…

Stuff that would wait until my lovely lot  are in bed

I don’t want to look back in 20 years and wish I had those extra minutes, I want them now!!! 

So here is the new “I’ll give you a minute” me! 

Welcome to the party!